Heart break

We all would have had heart breaks at some point in our lives. Break ups, either romantic or with your best friends, is very painful. It isn't easy to cope, especially after an bad argument or misunderstandings. what did I do? Where did I go wrong? How can the other person don't understand even after being together for so many years? Can we ever go back to how it was? Do I really want to go back? Questions like these will haunt us for weeks. It's nothing less than the physical pain. We grieve such break ups like we grieve the death of a loved one. 

The problem here is we don't understand that the image of the person we have in my mind is just an idea. We romantisize them to the point that we refuse to see their real self. I don't mean they have turned evil now but they are just not that person anymore. For that matter of fact, we are not that same person anymore too. We are all very different from where we started. As we are different it may not work as it used to. Accepting this will save a lot of pain. 

The saying ' Time will heal ' is true to an extent. Time will heal. But we might return to the grieving days again thinking of the good days and memories of them. It will eventually lead us to the bad memories and will bring back the pain. Time will heal again. It's a cycle with ups and downs. 

In the process of healing, we might try to replace the hole they left in our heart with other people, only to find it's not the same. We might end up doing it quite a few times to realise it's not going to happen. We can't replace them with someone new but we can welcome new people into our lives as our hearts are much bigger than the hole they left. We can make new memories and be happy and content with the new people in our lives. We can't MOVE ON from heart breaks, but we can definitely move forward and that's the way.