The endless suffering called life

Why life has to be so slow, long and painful. There is no escape from boredom, illness and sadness. We try our best to keep us engaged to keep us distracted from boredom. We are taught to fight illness and be strong and get up every time we are pulled down by life. We are taught to get up as many times as needed only to be failed by life. There is a melancholy ringing in the ears, lurking in our thoughts and mind every waking moment. We constantly try to escape from all these and be hopeful of the future. Why life has to be so slow, long and painful. Why can't it speed up and let us die as soon as we are done with the procreation phase, saving a lot of unnecessary suffering. We console ourselves saying there are going to be happy days ahead, great things to see and meet interesting people who could change our perception of life. However, there isn't anything that's going to satiate the soul. It's only going to crave more and end in more suffering. There is suffering souls behind every closed door. I wonder how people bring lives into the world knowing it's going to be painful and sad.

To alleviate suffering, stay in the present they say. If humans have not evolved to have the sense of

 time and memory to capture the past and plan for the future, we would have just bothered about the present. But only because of this boon, we have made so much progress as a species, which is also the reason for all the sufferings. I had always thought humans should be allowed to choose life and death. Like Euthnesia should be made common. Had it been, I am sure I wouldn't be writing this and long gone by now. Also, as a species who make so many mistakes in our simple decisions, can we decide for sure that we want to end our lives. I don't know, one day AI might help us decide if we are done for good. Or rather it can help us to end the sufferings and make life more bearable. 

The free world

 

       You must learn one thing:

       the world was made to be free in.

Give up all the other worlds
except the one to which you belong.

Sometimes it takes darkness and the sweet
confinement of your aloneness
to learn

anything or anyone
that does not bring you alive
is too small for you.

-David Whyte

Heart break

We all would have had heart breaks at some point in our lives. Break ups, either romantic or with your best friends, is very painful. It isn't easy to cope, especially after an bad argument or misunderstandings. what did I do? Where did I go wrong? How can the other person don't understand even after being together for so many years? Can we ever go back to how it was? Do I really want to go back? Questions like these will haunt us for weeks. It's nothing less than the physical pain. We grieve such break ups like we grieve the death of a loved one. 

The problem here is we don't understand that the image of the person we have in my mind is just an idea. We romantisize them to the point that we refuse to see their real self. I don't mean they have turned evil now but they are just not that person anymore. For that matter of fact, we are not that same person anymore too. We are all very different from where we started. As we are different it may not work as it used to. Accepting this will save a lot of pain. 

The saying ' Time will heal ' is true to an extent. Time will heal. But we might return to the grieving days again thinking of the good days and memories of them. It will eventually lead us to the bad memories and will bring back the pain. Time will heal again. It's a cycle with ups and downs. 

In the process of healing, we might try to replace the hole they left in our heart with other people, only to find it's not the same. We might end up doing it quite a few times to realise it's not going to happen. We can't replace them with someone new but we can welcome new people into our lives as our hearts are much bigger than the hole they left. We can make new memories and be happy and content with the new people in our lives. We can't MOVE ON from heart breaks, but we can definitely move forward and that's the way.